Author: Smitten Admin

With such a wide variety of dildos available this guide will help you choose your right one! Dildos are a very popular toy and are the oldest form of sex toys in the world, dating as far back as 28,000 years.

 

The Joys of the Dildo

Dildos offer a different type of stimulation from vibrators. They allow the person being penetrated to be in complete control of the range, speed and type of motion. Some may prefer a deep, slow massage, while others prefer a fast, thrusting movement. You choose the length, width, texture, shape and even color of the dildo according to your personal tastes.

 

Pleasure is Only One of the Benefits!

Dildos can even contribute to better sexual health. Women who are approaching or have reached menopause can use dildos to help decrease the effects of menopause on the vaginal wall. Menopause can contribute to the thinning of the vaginal wall and regular use of a dildo can help maintain vaginal tone and decrease the effects of menopause. Dildos can also help lessen the effects of vaginal conditions caused by tense muscles by helping to maintain vaginal tone.

 

How to Decide Which Dildo is Right for You

Finding the dildo that is right for you can be a difficult process. Our boutiques carry a wide range of sizes and types of dildos and choosing just one can be overwhelming. Generally you’re looking for “the right tool for the job” – a dildo which is a perfect size for you, easy to clean and reasonably priced. Some people prefer realism, and want a dildo that simulates the sexual experience of a man’s penis. At Smitten you’ll find an assortment of dildos of varying authenticity, some more realistic than others. Choosing the right dildo comes down to three key elements:

• Picking a dildo material that works for you
• Deciding what you want your dildo to do
• Choosing a dildo shape, size, and color

 

Picking A Dildo Material for You

Dildos made of 100% silicone are the best quality dildos available and are highly recommended, if they are in your budget.

• Silicone is a recommended material for all toys because it is clean, strong and durable. It is nonporous and can be boiled in water. Silicone retains temperature, is soft to the touch and is available in a wide range of colors, shapes, and sizes. Note: Do not use silicone based lubricants on silicone dildos, it may damage your dildo. Water based lubricants are recommended for use with silicone dildos.
• Jelly-Rubber dildos are inexpensive and available in a wide range of colors, shapes and sizes. However, jelly rubber dildos are often made of inferior quality material, and may contain phthalates, a chemical that has been linked to health problems in other products and situations. For this reason if you use jelly rubber dildos look for a ‘phthalate free’ logo on the packaging. If you are unsure it is recommended that you use a latex condom over the toy.
• Plush dildos made from realistic feeling materials such as CyberSkin, ReelFeel or SensaFeel are brand specific ways of referring to the soft material that they are made from. The only reason to choose a plush dildo is for the ‘real’ feel. The main drawback is that it is not as durable, tears easily and is porous, therefore, difficult to keep clean.
• Alternative Material dildos such as those made from metal, glass or acrylic are beautiful looking and are often handmade by artisans rather than mass manufactured in a factory. Dildos made of these materials are very durable, beautifully designed and easy to keep clean. They also provide a different kind of stimulation because they hold their shape when inserted. As such they are good for G-spot stimulation or pressure stimulation. Some people may find that the lack of flexibility of these toys make them too intense. Also, be careful not to drop glass or acrylic dildos as it may weaken them.

 

Anal Dildos

Dildos tend to be made with vaginal penetration in mind, but providing your dildo has no seams, no sharp edges and has a wide flared base, it is should also be safe for anal penetration. If you want to use your dildo for both anal and vaginal penetration, use condoms to protect the dildo or buy a silicone dildo you can boil in water between the time it is used vaginally and anally.

 

Harness Compatible Dildos

If you want to use your dildo in a harness, there are few things to make sure you look for:

1. Make sure your dildo has a wide flared base that is big enough to hold the dildo in place in the harness.
2. Try to get a dildo that is at least five inches long. If you are using your dildo in a harness you don’t need to use the whole length, but a dildo that’s too short can be annoying in a harness.
3. It is also better to get a firmer dildo for harness use to help it stay in place better so it does not slip out of the harness. A soft dildo won’t be able to hold its shape in a harness as well as a firm dildo.

 

Double Ended Dildos

These are designed for simultaneous double penetration and can be used for vaginal or anal penetration. High quality double ended dildos are made of silicone and have a curve to them that facilitates greater movement and physical closeness. You can also find inexpensive double ended dildos made of jelly-rubber. Double ended dildos can also be used for solo play where the other end is a convenient handle. Some curved double ended dildos are designed for use in a harness to provide double penetration for female wearers.

 

Shape, Size & Color

When choosing the shape of your dildo you may want the look of a realistic penis, a fun dolphin shape or a fun ribbed shape! Dildos can be shaped for G-spot stimulation, for prostate stimulation or be completely straight with no curves.

If this is your first dildo you may want to start with something basic so you can get an idea of what you are looking for. You may want to avoid the more unusual shapes, as it might hinder the amount of movement you can have when using the dildo.

The size of your dildo will greatly depend on personal preference. If you don’t know what size you want, start with a size you are familiar and/or comfortable with. Don’t worry about getting a toy that is too long, you don’t need to use the entire length of the dildo, but if it is too wide, it’s could be uncomfortable or even painful. The size of dildo someone wants can change as you become more aroused, relaxed and become adjusted to the size or shape of your new toy. For this reason a lot of people have more than one dildo, in different sizes.

The color of your dildo may not be an issue but if it is most dildos come in a range of colors! People who feel strange about using dildos often prefer a dildo color that is unlike human skin tone such as deep blue, purple or even rainbow!

 

As with any exploration be open and respectful with your partner both when discussing trying something new and during the actual time you are experimenting with new toys.

 

And as always, remember to love lots and play safe!

Vibrating bullets are a popular and simple toy to enhance to your sexual pleasure.

 

The bullet vibrator is a very popular vibrator because of how simple, discreet and effective it is. It can be used on your own or with a partner, on the clitoris, labia, breasts or any other erogenous zone! It can even be used on the tip of a penis, the scrotum or perineum (patch of skin between the scrotum and the anus). Its versatility makes it a great couple’s toy!

 

A bullet vibrator is named so because in its traditional design it resembles the shape of a bullet. Vibrating bullets range from a basic self-contained bullet that is no more than 2 inches long to egg-shaped bullets that are connected to a controller by a cord. There are also cordless varieties which may have self-contained batteries, be rechargeable or even have a wireless remote control!

 

Bullet vibrators can be a great first time toy and are a perfect way to start exploring vibrating toys as you begin to discover where vibration feels the best for you and your partner.

• Ideal for clitoral stimulation and any kind of external stimulation of other erogenous zones.
• Inexpensive; making these great for first time buyers; this is often the first toy people, particularly women, will buy!
• Easy to add into couple’s sex play, to use on a partner or on yourself.
• Good for body & erotic massage.

 

Bullets are usually made of hard plastic that may be coated in a thin layer of silicone or jelly latex. This provides a softer feel to the outside of the bullet.

 

You should never insert a bullet inside the body so far that you need to use the cord to retrieve it and bullets should never be inserted anally. If you really want to use a bullet vibrator vaginally you can try putting it inside of an unrolled condom. This way you can use the base of the condom to pull the toy out. This protects the bullet from exposure to fluids as well.

 

A lot of bullets are not waterproof so never submerge the bullet and/or cord to clean unless the packaging specifically states the bullet is fully waterproof. It is also common to see a bullet/controller set where the bullet is waterproof but the controller is not. Read the packaging carefully and when in doubt err on the side of caution and do not get it wet.

 

To clean a bullet and/or controller that are not waterproof use some toy cleaner (such as Swiss Navy Toy & Body Cleaner) and water to carefully wipe clean. It’s best to remove the batteries from your bullet (and any battery operated sex toys) before storing them to avoid having any damage to the toys from battery acid leaks inside the toy that can cause internal damage to the toy.

 

Smitten’s Fun Bullet Ideas

Give your partner a dual-bullet massage! Take 2 bullets (or a controller that can run 2 bullets), cover your lover in massage oil and give them a vibrating dual bullet massage! This is a great way to pamper and relax after a long day!

 

Use it as an oral sex helper! While performing oral sex on your partner hold the vibrating bullet against nearby erogenous zones.

 

Keep a bullet in the glove compartment of your car for when you get stuck in traffic. It helps pass the time and relieve the stress of road rage! (This is just for fun! Smitten does not endorse distracted driving!)

A simple guide on the how and why of kegel exercises and how weights such as Ben Wa Balls benefit vaginal health.

 

At Smitten we hear questions about this popular product all the time! Ben Wa Balls are by many names such as kegel balls, pleasure balls, kegel weights or Geisha Balls. Ben Wa Balls are small balls that can be made of metal, plastic or glass. They are usually solid but can also contain a small weight that rolls around inside them, creating a vibrating sensation for unique stimulation.

 

Ben Wa Balls are inserted into the vagina and require use of the muscles in the vagina (also known as pelvic floor or ’PC’ muscles) to hold them in place, therefore, helping to strengthen these important muscles. Building up the PC muscles aids in vaginal strength, bladder control, bowl urgency issues, orgasm control and can lead to more intense orgasms! Ben Wa Balls that are weighted create a ‘vibrating’ sensation when they are rocked back and forth. These may also called pleasure balls or duo-tone balls.

 

The first time you use your Ben Wa Balls can be a little intimidating. That’s why we have

put together the following guide.

 

Steps to Use Ben Wa Balls

1. Use the restroom before inserting the balls in the vagina.
2. Insert one ball at a time. You can put lubrication on the balls to help them glide in. Inserting the balls is similar to inserting an applicator-less tampon, such as O.B.. If you’re not used to inserting tampons or if you’re having trouble, try lifting one leg up or crouching while inserting the balls. You can also try inserting them while lying down.
3. Once they are inserted, squeeze your leg muscles together followed by your PC muscles to hold the balls in. The balls should push down a little bit inside of you and may make your vagina feel “full”. Much like tampons, you should eventually get used to the feeling.
4. Hold the balls inside for 10-15 minutes a day to strengthen your PC muscles. Once you become used to them you can hold them in for longer periods, even hours, for an even better workout!
5. If any balls slip out, simply wash them well with cleaner and water and slip them back in.
6. There are several ways to remove the balls including: jumping up and down, sneezing, coughing, sitting and bearing down with your pelvic muscles, lubricant can also help them slide out, etc. If you are concerned about removing the balls, you may want to purchase balls that are strung onto a retrieval cord. In any case do not panic! It is NOT possible for the balls to disappear inside the vagina, they will eventually come out on their own.

 

If you are new to Ben Wa Balls you may want to start by using larger glass or plastic balls rather than the heavier metal balls. These materials tend to be lighter and the larger size will help you to hold the balls in and gradually increase the strength of your PC muscles while you work your way up to heavier weights.

 

Start off using the balls at home and do not attempt any vigorous activity while you are getting used to them. Even coughing or sneezing could cause the balls to fall out. Once you have built up the strength of your PC muscles you may try wearing them in public, however, keep in mind that metal balls will set off metal detectors and having them come out accidentally could be awkward so plan accordingly.

 

Ben Wa Balls can also be used to enhance sexual stimulation. Rocking back and forth while the balls are inserted will stimulate the inside of the vagina and use during intercourse will move the balls around stimulating both the vagina and the penis.

 

Stay away from Ben Wa Balls that have a cloth or cotton string connecting them together. These strings are very difficult to properly clean and could possibly lead to infection.

 

As you can see, Ben Wa Balls have many benefits! These small little weights allow you to improve your sex life while having fun at the same time and are the easiest workout routine you will ever have! It’s easy to see why women world-wide have loved their Ben Wa Balls for hundreds of years!